The whole process of marriage in shaanxi countryside (upper part)

May is a very festive and beautiful month. Pairs of newlyweds have since moved towards a happy new life.

Marriage is one of the great joys of life. People get married year after year, and people get married every day. There are many weddings, but how many people know the details of weddings in rural Shaanxi? 80% of people know only one but not the other. Although there is no difference in living conditions between urban and rural areas, the wedding scene is very different. Among other things, families in the city get married in hotels. Have a feast and say goodbye to the wedding. It was kind of a complete wedding. The countryside is very different. Next, I would like to give you a detailed explanation of the real-life wedding in the countryside.

Because I have introduced several pairs of young people, from knowing to getting married. And has participated in many weddings of newlyweds. So I still know the whole process of weddings in rural areas of Shaanxi.

The children of the post-85 generation are now old enough to get married. In rural areas, they almost always get married before the age of 30. Marriage is a happy event. When children reach this age, parents and relatives and friends will arrange marriage for their children before the age of 25. A couple of young people met from their own work, some were introduced by friends, and some were met on the Internet. Once two young people are in love with each other, parents will hold an engagement ceremony for their children. The first purpose of the engagement ceremony is to establish a romantic relationship, and the second is to make sure that the parents of both parties know each other and establish kinship. Finally, it will lay a good foundation for talking about marriage, and parents of both sides can arrange marriage for their children from now on.

However, this engagement is simple to say, in fact, there are a lot of rules handed down from our ancestors. Boys must have a wedding room. Where's the girl? That's different. There must be betrothal gifts for an engagement. Parents have raised their children, but they haven't enjoyed their happiness yet. they have just been raised enough to work, and they have married into another family. So no matter what, the man has to give her parents a bride price, right? How much do you want for the gift? Who goes to the man's house to ask for the bride price? At this time, a third party appeared. People in Shaanxi who have seen Qin Opera know the matchmaker Liu, right? Used to call a matchmaker. Now call the presenter. This introducer is specially responsible for coordinating everything before the marriage of the two families. The woman's parents told the presenter what they thought, and the introducer conveyed it to the man's family. And then agree. And then prepared by the man.

How much is the bride price? I have encountered this problem several times. It's tricky. It's also the highlight of an engagement. If the parents of both sides are reasonable, or if the family conditions of both sides are better, the bride price is generally 10 to 20, 000. It's easier to talk about. If the family condition of the husband is not very good, the bride price is even higher. The worse the geographical conditions, the more difficult it is for children to find a partner, and the higher the betrothal price. In some places in the west of Guanzhong, the bride price is as high as more than one hundred thousand. Most betrothal gifts are about fifty thousand. Many families in rural areas find partners for their children and buy houses for their children as wedding houses in the city. Of course, no matter how good the material environment is, if the child is not excellent, it is also very difficult to find a partner, and the bride price will rise. Of course, they can basically coordinate to the satisfaction of both families. There are also cases where romantic relationships are terminated because of inappropriate betrothal gifts. This probability is in the minority.

On the engagement day, the boy and his uncle or uncle and other relatives will accompany the man's parents to the woman's house. With betrothal money and gifts. The woman should invite her uncles, uncles, aunts, aunts and so on to entertain and meet. There are drinks and banquets at home.

After eating the banquet, give the bride price to the woman's parents first. No matter how much the money is, the red satin quilt will be wrapped in advance and given to the woman in front of relatives on both sides. The woman will return some of the money to the man appropriately, and the bride price will be refunded more and less. The man can't object. This link can not be missing. It means that there is a discussion between the two families, and I am interested in your affection. Both sides also give red envelopes to each other's children. It's kind of marriage recognition. At the same time, set the date of the wedding. There are also customs that you should pay attention to on your wedding day. Then the man began to decorate the new house. The woman buys something for dowry. How much to marry the two sides agreed to do. There is no uniform standard. Take the time to take the wedding photo.

The day before the wedding, the man needs to do several things: go to the woman's house. The woman's family will hold a banquet. I would like to entertain the old and young men of the village and thank you for your care over the years. At the same time, tell everyone that the woman is getting married. It is hoped that relatives and friends will send the woman to the husband's house to hold the wedding ceremony on their wedding day. In rural areas, the more women marry, the more valuable they appear, and the more people who see them off, the more prosperous their families appear, and the more they appear to be of good character. Implying that the mother's family is powerful, and the man does not dare to bully him casually. (the person who delivers the way refers to a group of people who come to send the bride-to-be to the bridegroom's house on the wedding day.) the woman must accompany the man throughout the banquet. Objective 1. To let relatives and friends know the groom-to-be. two。 The groom-to-be should also thank his relatives and friends for raising such a satisfied bride-to-be for him. 3. The groom-to-be also needs to discuss with the woman's family what to pay attention to on the wedding day or what must be prepared. Shaanxi rural areas pay more attention to subtlety. Every town is different. There has been a slight improvement in recent years. Because a lot of children go out to work. Almost every family is looking for a partner across provinces. So a lot of fastidious people of the older generation were slowly forced to cancel. But the rules of each family left behind are hard to change.

The next step is the most important reception.

Because there are so many details, I will try my best to sort out the second half. Please look forward to the next announcement!