Why do people in love break up? This may be a big problem that many people struggle to find.

Clearly vows of love are still ringing in our ears, and the promise of holding your hand is like yesterday, how did it change in the twinkling of an eye?

Taylor Myers, a 25-year-old poet, made no secret of his fear of love by writing a few paragraphs on social media Tumblr, which pierced millions of people's hearts and received 1.48 million likes and retweeted comments.

Her post, raw, fearful and full of regret, touched many people who had experienced the shocking contrasts between the intense, burning adoration of young love, and the cold ashes of realism that remain once the fire has faded.

Her post, unpretentious, full of fear and regret, touched the hearts of many people. These people have experienced a strong contrast between the two feelings-the strong and hot love when they are young, and the cold ashes of reality once the passion is burned out.

Let's take a look at her exact words:

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals.

Many people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me the most. I know they want answers such as fear of heights, confined spaces or people dressed as animals.

But how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it.

But how can I tell them that when I was 17, I took a course on "emotion in Life" and found that most people didn't love for exactly the same reason they fell in love at the beginning.

That their lover's once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain.

The once lovely stubbornness of their loved ones has now become uncompromising, their once single-minded brutality has now become a sign of immaturity, and the bad habits they once loved have become a matter of burning money.

Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life.

Their true temperament has become reckless and irresponsible, and the way they put their feet on the dashboard is no longer sexy, just another distracting thing in your busy life.

Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

For the man who once thought that all the bright stars in the world were in my eyes, I might become ugly. When I think of this, nothing makes me sad and scared more.

After the release of this article, it caused a wide range of resonance among netizens.

Taylor had no idea that her article would go viral, and then she wrote another article to further share her emotional lessons and her views on love and marriage.

She had no idea the post would take off this much, so she wrote a follow-up post to clarify a few things about the class and the love lessons she learned.

She had no idea that this post would be so popular, so she wrote another article to explain the lessons and what she had learned about love.

Compared with the previous post, she shared her views from another angle, and then poked the hearts of a large number of netizens!

What on earth is love? Is it a feeling or a choice? Let's hear what Taylor has to say.

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I "ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

I never thought it would be the most popular of the hundreds of poems I've ever written. When I wrote that article, I was so miserable and sad that I ignored the best part of the course.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, "is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?" We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling.

After the teacher introduced the theory to us, she asked, "Love is a feeling?" Or is it a choice? " We, a group of teenagers, naturally replied that it was a feeling.

She said that if we clung to that belief, we "d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

'If we stick to this concept, we will never be able to have any long-term relationship, 'she said.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

She asked us to interview some adults who had been married or were married and asked them about their marital status and why they ended up long or failed. Finally, I asked everyone whether love is an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing.

Everyone says that love is a choice. Love is a conscious commitment, something you choose to maintain with someone day after day, and that person chooses to do the same.

They all said that at one point in their marriage, the "feeling of love" had vanished or faded and they weren "t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

They all say that at some point in their marriage, this "feeling of love" disappears or fades, and they no longer feel happy. 'The feeling is changing all the time, 'they say.' you can't build anything long on this shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

People who are still together say that when things are bad, they will choose to communicate to find out what went wrong and how to fix it. They will choose to recreate something worthy of mutual affection.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Divorcees said they chose to leave.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful.

Since taking that course, I have looked at relationships in a completely different way. I also understand why arranged marriages are successful.

I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I "ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I" ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I found the difference between affection and commitment. I never take the initiative to approach people who stir up my heartstrings or bother me. I choose people who promise to choose me, who are willing to seriously look for something that will make people like even in the worst days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

I am no longer afraid that those who say I am their whole universe will not see the stars in my eyes one day, as long as they still choose to keep looking, one day the stars will appear again.

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