Why did she say that women should have a room of their own?

During the National Day holiday, wherever we went, there was a sea of people, noisy and crowded, and even a trip to the mall was blocked on the road. At this time, the most comfortable place is my own nest.

April likes to stay at home, play his favorite music and read a slow-paced novel on the sofa. The warm sun shone on me, and the whole afternoon passed by so suddenly.

The world outside the window is noisy, and only this space enjoys solitude. April is glad to have a cabin where you can temporarily escape from the hustle and bustle of the world, immerse yourself in your own world, and enjoy a stolen leisure time.

Today April I read an article in "spend your time" about why women should own a house of their own. After reading a lot of feelings, I would like to share it with you here.

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One side of the small world

In the summer of 2017, I owned my first house. It is located in Erhai Lake, Dali, a small one-bedroom.

Probably a natural tramp, I haven't felt much about the house for many years, and I have never had a strong desire to have it.

It was an accident to buy this house.

When I met an interviewee for the first time, I talked about how I wanted to use the provident fund I had paid in Beijing for many years. The next day, he showed me the well-decorated house.

I paid the deposit on the spot. So for the first time, I had a house of my own.

As the British woman writer Woolf said, "if you want to write, you must have an income of £500 a year and a room with a lock."

Her other words made me feel deeply--

The freedom of the mind depends on material things.

And women have always been poor, far more than for the last two hundred years, and have been so throughout history.

As for the freedom of mind, women are not as good as the children of Athenian slaves.

…… That's why I put so much emphasis on money and my own room.

What you said is very true.

Don't you see, in this era, more and more girls earn money, buy houses, become independent rich, and have the strength to live freely.

I have lived in many houses since I was a child.

My parents left the countryside and went to the city to start a business. from renting a house at first to buying and selling a house later, I also followed a homeless life that moved from time to time.

After growing up, I counted that the longest time I had lived in a house was no more than five years. I don't know much about the so-called stable life.

After graduating from college, I spent a year on the road, looking at the world aimlessly and living without a fixed abode. The 40-liter backpack on my shoulder was my whole life that year.

Later, I decided to settle in Beijing and began to earn money independently. I have lived in several places, living with friends and family, or living alone.

The money earned at that time was spent on travel except for paying rent, meeting basic needs, eating and drinking with friends. At home and abroad, the United States, Europe, Southeast Asia, many places that have been longing for for a long time, have gone.

Later, when I read what Woolf wrote in "A Room of my own", I realized how difficult it was for me as a woman to experience and have everything.

Only a few decades or a hundred years ago, women were still subject to such vast and heavy shackles that they could not live freely.

Look, whether the British women recorded by Woolf before the 20th century or the Chinese women we know a hundred years ago, most of them spent their lives mending clothes and socks, cooking and washing clothes, and having a large group of children.

Women's talents are considered superfluous, and such things as education, reading and writing are far away from most women. It is a strange thing unheard of to go to society and engage in a variety of occupations.

Today, we can go to school, receive higher education, seek the career we like, and strive for career achievements. You can travel freely and see the scenery all over the world.

I'm in a small house by Erhai Lake.

Woolf's desired form has been realized to some extent, she said:

It will be a beautiful golden age, when women will have what they have been deprived of for a long time-leisure, a sum of money, and a room of their own.

I hope you can try your best to earn yourself enough money to travel, to do nothing, to think about the future or past of the world, to read, dream, or wander on the streets. let the line of thinking sink deep into this stream.

I also understood in an instant what the internal motivation was when I firmly worked in the big city to earn money, rather than retiring to the small town as early as today.

It is necessary to acquire the material foundation that frees the mind and to have the experience of watching the world in a prosperous world, which gives life a solid foundation.

As Woolf said:

The reason why I ask you to make money or have your own room is to live in reality, whether I can describe it or not, it will be a vibrant and dynamic life.

The benefits of making money are obvious.

You can travel, or you can live on your savings without working for a while, and then have the opportunity to buy a house of your own.

In the process of buying a house, I experienced the subtle feelings brought about by different values.

At present, in the vast number of third-and fourth-tier cities and rural areas, it is not common for girls to buy their own houses, and they are not widely accepted in concept.

People still regard the provision of houses for boys as a necessity. Without a house, it seems difficult for boys to get married.

I don't want to criticize it. You know, in the vast areas of China, there are still many girls who do not get the care of their parents and do not have equal access to education. Many of them will get married early and have children and shoulder the heavy burden of taking care of their families and raising children.

They do not have the excellent conditions and educational opportunities that city girls have, let alone strive for a career and earn a good income.

On the other side of the country, many city girls loved by their parents have received higher education and made a splash in the workplace. Rely on the subsidy of your parents, or buy your own house entirely on your own.

There are a lot of girls like this around me.

I'm in a small house by Erhai Lake.

Although, in the eyes of some men, it is more difficult for girls who own a house to get married. However, what I see more is that they lead more independent and leisurely lives.

I more or less classify myself as a lucky person who has the good conditions that girls can enjoy in this era, can live according to their own wishes, and choose a city they like to stay.

Dali itself gives me a strong sense of security.

No matter before or after buying a house, no matter how many villages or houses I have lived in, I have never felt drifting here. As long as Cangshan is in front of me, as long as I see the intoxicating sunset, I will feel attached and home.

Sometimes when I drive home in the evening, amid the heavy traffic in the city, I turn around and see the tall, green and rich mountains not far away, or enjoy the blue clouds and peaceful mountains at dusk on the national highway, and my heart suddenly becomes gentle. And really realize: this is the plateau town where I live, and I am really connected to it.

Yes, buying a house in this small town has brought about an unexpected change in my heart.

In retrospect, I am not a person with a great desire for material consumption, and I resign naked from time to time, do what I want to do, or live freely on the road.

But in fact, I have never taken making money lightly. Even naked resignation is clear in purpose, and it happens on the premise that you can live for a period of time without having to work and have some savings.

Probably by intuition and reason, I understand from the bottom of my heart the importance of material and money, the inseparable relationship between it and freedom, and I am a person who is in great need of freedom.

But I was still shocked when I saw another paragraph written by Woolf. She said:

Poetic attitude, to a large extent, still depends on the material basis. To have enough leisure, but also a little money, with money and leisure, to observe things, it is possible to stay out of it, leisurely.

What great poets have there been in the past hundred years? Coleridge, Wordsworth, Byron, Shelley, Rand, Keats, Tennyson, Browning, Arnold, Morris, Rossetti, Swinburne-we can stop.

All of these people, except Keats, Browning and Rossetti, went to college. Of the three, only Keats, who died young, lived a miserable life.

It may be a bit cruel to say so, but sadly, the hard facts tell us that the so-called saying that poetic talent, rich or poor, does not hinder it is nothing but empty talk.

For nearly two hundred years, poor poets have had little chance. Believe me-- I spent a lot of time observing about 320 primary schools in ten years-- the truth is that poor children in England do not have more opportunities for spiritual freedom than children of Athenian slaves. And the birth of great works depends on this.

In China, it seems that there has always been a tradition of extolling poverty. Confucius said that Yan Hui said, "A meal of food, a ladle of drink, in a bad alley, people can not bear to worry, Hui will not change his joy." Hyun-Zai, Hui-ya. "

Some artists who live in poverty but shine brilliantly, such as Van Gogh and Modigliani, and the Chinese prose writer Li Juan, have all experienced poverty.

For most people, poverty does not bring freedom and creation, does not bring happiness, but only leads to embarrassment, disease and death.

Therefore, in the West, there is often a saying that "if one generation engages in industry and finance to earn money, the second or third generation can engage in culture and art."

And, Woolf will emphasize the importance of "money and room" to women's creation.

I think that if girls have property and money, it is a kind of freedom, a kind of confidence, a kind of foundation that can live and create according to their own wishes.

I wish this woman had had more freedom.

But it's still subject to a lot of constraints.

An era in which the situation is also relatively weaker.

More girls can be treated fairly.

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A brief introduction to the author

Waste your time: focus on reporting the ways that literary and artistic women live from nine to five, advocating to do useless things and spend their limited years. The ideal life is to be honest with yourself and waste your time.

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