The highest four realms of life: pain without laughter, without confusion without surprise and confusion.

In life, we are bound to experience twists and turns, joys and sorrows, joys and sorrows. Only in this way, is the real life. People's life can not be plain sailing, is from immature to mature and then to sophisticated process.

There are four rare realms in life: first, pain without words, silence is not without pain, but facing grief, pain and pain. Second, smile but do not speak, smile has the power to move mountains, an indifferent smile, sometimes better than thousands of troops. The third is to be fascinated without losing it. Calmness is the practice of life. Obsession and misbehavior will hurt yourself. Fourth, it is surprised but not chaotic, it is difficult not to be surprised, the heart is surprised, and there is stillness, surprise and not chaos in the movement has a chic beauty.

Pain without saying anything is a kind of strength

More than two thousand years ago, Gou Jian, the king of Yue, tasted the dung and asked the disease. He said nothing about the pain of the destruction of the country, the pain of being trampled on his dignity, the pain of lying down with firewood and the pain of chewing bitter courage. He sealed all this grief and indignation in his heart and condensed it into a long sword, pointing straight at the eyebrows of King Wu! In the end, the emperor lived up to the willing man, and three thousand Yue A swallowed Wu.

Pain without saying, we need the strength of human nature to break through the obstacles of thorns, we need the wisdom of life to withstand the ups and downs. In fact, the pain without saying is to convey to us a belief: after the wind and rain, there will be a rainbow. At that time, looking back on the bleak place, there must be no wind, rain and sunshine!

It is a kind of open-minded to laugh without saying a word.

Li Bai, who "the whole world is muddy and I am alone, everyone is drunk and I am awake", did nothing and was depressed in the face of the dim Tang Xuanzong and the whole dark society in the period of Tianbao. Although he was regarded as an Hanlin, he only accompanied the emperor and his ministers to drink and make merry every day, that's all. Looking up to the sky and laughing and going out, Li Bai finally left the imperial court and lingered between the mountains and rivers with his "laughter without speaking". Life, instead of chattering and complaining, is better to calm down and ponder; fleeting years are like water, and burning pain will eventually precipitate into an experience and become a spirit hidden in the depths of the soul.

It is a kind of wisdom to be confused without losing

Do you understand why you are sad? What on earth is sad? Even know how long it will be sad, and what can be done to make it less sad? You can't get lost in a sea of sadness. To tell you the truth, it is not easy to encounter major setbacks in life, such as car accidents, fires, death of relatives, divorce and so on.

Once in the Xiyuan Temple in Suzhou, I listened to a dharma master give a lecture to the Buddhists, and there was a very good saying: "delusion" is talked about in Buddhism, that is, many of our ideas are illusory, but there are two ideas that are extremely real and encourage people to think often, that is, impermanence and death.

We may also learn something from it: thinking about impermanence makes us cherish the present more; thinking about death makes us more able to let go. Lighten the gains and losses, so that in the face of sudden loss, will not be so lost. Maybe the influence of the outside world is too great, you are lost and out of control in your emotions, but when you have enough wisdom in your heart to allow you to recover slowly after a period of time, you still have a wonderful and great self-healing power.

Surprise without chaos is a kind of calmness.

The ancients said: "if you are humiliated but not surprised, if you are aggrieved but not disorderly, you can do almost anything." It is impossible not to be aggrieved in one's life. As Fang Yue of the Song Dynasty said in his poem, "unpleasant things are often eight or nine, but they have nothing to do with those who speak." The question is, what kind of attitude should we take in the face of grievances?

In fact, grievance is not only a test of a person, but also a test of personal ability. Didn't the ancients say: "hardships and hardships make you successful."

First of all, seriously reflect on whether there is something you have not done in place. Why did the grievance fall on his own head? If it is true that one's own work has not been done properly, would it not be very good to improve it?

The principle of "change if there is no need to increase encouragement", and set higher standards and requirements for ourselves. In other words, we should regard grievances as a stone to sharpen our own improvement.

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