Divorce big data exposed: marriage is dying out?

source| Mr. Slash

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Recently, the Ministry of Civil Affairs released a set of marriage data, which is briefly summarized as follows:

The marriage registration rate has declined for four consecutive years, down 7% year-on-year in 2017!

The divorce registration rate has risen for 15 consecutive years, climbing to 3.2‰ in 2017!

The trend of late marriage is obvious, and the average age of marriage in Jiangsu is 34 years old.

Moreover, contrary to the increasing ageing of the population, there has been a repeated decline in the birth rate.

There is a comforting message hidden in this: Chinese women are beginning to wake up to marriage!

They are spiritually independent, they do not act as marionettes of their parents in life, they are financially independent, they cannot bear compromise in marriage, they are mentally firm, and their stomachs are not controlled by others.

So when faced with a low-quality marriage, they simply choose to revert to being single.

In the face of growing age and parents urging marriage, girls still insist on marrying love.

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Indeed, love is the foundation of marriage, and what many people don't know is that low-quality marriage is not as good as high-quality singleness.

My little aunt, more than ten years ago found her husband cheating, she was angry but ran to uncle's unit to make a fuss, uncle missed the opportunity to promote, since then has been depressed.

Although the two did not part ways, the gap between husband and wife deepened with the passage of time. At first, they quarreled and smashed furniture, and later they almost had no communication.

Sleep in separate rooms, eat at different tables.

My aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, and doctors said it was inseparable from her long-term depression.

After the operation, the doctor comforted my aunt that bad emotions would amplify the pain of the body, so we must remain optimistic and cheerful.

At that moment, aunt hands to cover the withered chest, suddenly burst into tears, suppressed for many years of depression, hatred seems to find an outlet, almost crying to faint.

After her aunt recovered and was discharged from the hospital, the first thing she did was to go through divorce procedures with her uncle.

Later I went to visit her at home. Her face was calm, and she had gained a lot of weight. The wrinkles at the corners of her eyes were smoothed out.

Aunt said, after divorce especially regret, regret not to divorce earlier, two look two hate, but also stubborn for more than ten years, really stupid.

It turns out that resentment is a person who wants to exhaust all his feelings and completely can't see other things in his eyes. Now, the sky was blue and the air seemed fresh.

The resentment and bad mood in garbage marriage will make people live in haze, and their health will also be threatened.

Mr. Card's mailbox said:

I thought the spring wind was ten miles worse than you, but when the snow fell, the lonely shadow was silent, and I mustered the courage to walk alone, I found that the spring wind, summer moon, autumn frost and winter snow were all better than you.

Just as netizens joked: I thought you could shield me from the wind and rain, but unexpectedly all the wind and rain came from you.

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A low-quality marriage hides the compromise of two people, and the child is often the most hurt.

The author wrote a story about Miss Tang:

Miss Tang's parents often quarreled, and when they quarreled, they broke things.

Glass, wine bottle, radio, pot, bowl, ladle, basin, TV...... parents than fall, a earth-shattering thunder, parents curse such as downpour, mixed with all kinds of broken sound, toppling, ignorant children's world, instant collapse.

The quarrel between her parents was deeply buried in her soul. For more than 20 years, she fled her original family, read books, healed herself, and tried to wash away those sad memories.

However, after she desperately fled from "home", the terror of "home" went deep into her bone marrow. She was afraid of forming a family, and she was still afraid of "sudden" sounds.

Her brother was worse off. He was silent, eccentric, dropped out of school, disappeared a lot, had a hard time adjusting, and was often lost in confusion.

The low-pressure environment in garbage marriage, like a pair of ruthless invisible hands, not only makes couples lose the ability to perceive happiness, but also stops the child's throat and suffocation.

I don't know when, people no longer believe that it is better to tear down ten temples than destroy a marriage. Instead comfort the woman in the mire: leave it, the child is the most sensitive, husband and wife so, the child will not be happy.

Women have come to understand that a makeshift marriage hurts children more than a divorce.

Marriage is like a tree, low-quality marriage, will not bloom beautiful flowers, will only give birth to bitter fruit.

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Mark Twain, looking back on his life, wrote:

Time flies, life is short, don't waste time quarrelling, apologizing, sad and blaming, use time to love, even if only for a moment, don't waste it

High quality singles can meet better love.

"Miss J without story" once wrote about the reason why parents divorced: because dad flicked ashes into the orchid pot raised by his mother.

Mother shed tears and said to her: I hope you can understand mother, life is too long.

When mom met the right person, the two of them turned their ordinary days into poetry.

He would put beautiful flowerpots on his mother's plants, new plates and chopsticks on her new pale green checkered tablecloth, and a pair of milky leather shoes with square heels for her red dress.

He would take them for a walk in nature when the seasons changed, to see the alternation of time...

Miss J finally understood her mother, she saw the appearance of a beautiful marriage, but also saw the appearance of a happy woman.

The romance of growing old together is not to make do with old age, but someone who accompanies you attentively, walks through frost and rain, thousands of mountains and valleys, and is willing to hold your hand, quietly watch the flow of time, not afraid of China hair.

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Yu Feihong, the immortal goddess, said in Round Table School that she was not celibate or unmarried, and that she believed that female singleness was not a social problem.

The rising divorce rate is a silent protest against secular prejudice by most women who want a true love marriage.

She broke through the crux of low-quality marriage: the loneliness of two people is more sad than the loneliness of one person.

Do not marry for age, house, face, when you want to get married, must be met by a good person, worthy of life, you can take responsibility together, carefully manage marriage, face the wind and rain together, grow up hand in hand.

Life is very bitter, long and short, do not throw yourself in the garbage marriage, bitter hatred to spend life.

Whether married or single, we all want to live noble and beautiful, live up to time, live up to this life.

As Robin Williams said:

I thought the worst thing in life was to die alone, but it wasn't. The worst part is dying with someone who makes you feel lonely.

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