Honey, if you insist on not sharing bowls and chopsticks with your mother-in-law, then let's get a divorce.

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Honey, if you insist on not sharing bowls and chopsticks with your mother-in-law, let's get a divorce.

I don't think love needs to be formal, but it has to be rational. Any blind and impulsive behavior may end up hurting rather than caring for the family. But these basic understandings are not recognized at all in the minds of my husband and mother-in-law. They think that family members have to live as one person regardless of every detail, and they don't care about even the most basic hygiene. That's why I hate it.

My husband comes from a single-parent family. My father-in-law died early when he was less than ten years old. Since then, he and his mother-in-law have been dependent on each other. In order to raise their son, the mother-in-law has suffered a lot. After he finished college and went to work, he vowed to give his mother a good life, so he showed great respect for his mother-in-law. After marriage, we live with our mother-in-law. At the beginning, I can understand that she is my husband's mother and his favorite elder in the world.

I really want to get along with her and have a lot of respect for her, but the problem is that she is not an easy person to get along with. She only loves her son and has no idea of peaceful coexistence with me. On the contrary, she thinks that I have taken away her son and has been picky and disgusted with me. In her opinion, I was spoiled, had a lot of bad habits, and didn't do a good job of housework. I couldn't say it yet. I made a face with her as soon as I said it. Let's talk about it, a person nagging in front of you all day, never a word of affirmation, a mouth will disrelish three or four, you will be happy? In fact, I have been patient all these years. I am not afraid of her. I just do not want to conflict with her for the sake of harmony between my husband and his family.

After I was pregnant, my mother-in-law said that she was not in good health and was not fit to take care of me. At that time, I went back to my mother's house to rest and wait to give birth. After giving birth to her daughter, she said that she had a nervous breakdown and could not hear the baby's crying, which affected her rest. I took my daughter back to my mother's house. After weaning, I went back to my mother-in-law's house to start work. My daughter stayed with my parents until she was about three years old before she came back to live with us. Because the child has lived with my grandmother for a long time and is not close to my mother-in-law, she does not reflect on her behavior. She blames me for teaching me. She told my husband that I was resourceful and taught her children not to respect their grandmother. When my husband heard this, he was indiscriminate and only blamed me.

Some time ago, my mother-in-law was diagnosed with hepatitis B. I was afraid that my daughter would be infected. I suggested at home that I wanted to use public chopsticks, but my mother-in-law was very angry. she felt that I was disgusted with her, crying loudly at home and scolding me for being heartless. My husband was furious when he came back and yelled at me directly. He said to me, "I have been eating in the same pot with my mother since I was a child. You dislike my mother, but you dislike me." Do you think you are the only one who likes cleanliness and hygiene, and this is a way to prove how elegant and noble you are? " I am completely disappointed that such an unreasonable man who pays no attention to the health of his wife and children and only uses a foolish filial piety to honor his mother is really unbearable.

After so many years of patience has come to an end, looking at the angry husband and the crying mother-in-law, I tried to hold back my anger and calmed down and said to him, "honey, if you insist on not sharing bowls and chopsticks with your mother-in-law, then let's get a divorce." I won't stop you if you are willing to share joys and sorrows with your mother. Even if you want to get sick with her, it is your freedom, but I have to make sure that my child is healthy, because I am also a mother. " He's speechless. I'm really fed up with him and his mother. Is it necessary for me to stick to such a family and marriage?