Brother-in-law married mother-in-law: either you lend money to my son to buy a house or give him your new house

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Brother-in-law married, mother-in-law: either you lend money to my son to buy a house, or give him your new house

I married into my mother-in-law and became the daughter-in-law of her family, but I didn't replace my mother-in-law as the mother of my brother-in-law. Listening to my mother-in-law confidently ask me for this unreasonable request, I was angry at that time. Why on earth did she have such a view and understanding? do you think we are easy to bully or do we really think that we have the responsibility to raise her favorite little son?

At the beginning, my parents did not agree with me to marry my husband, but it was not that they did not like this man. In their view, although his family was poor and his family burden was important, he was still more honest and reliable, and he was down-to-earth. He is a man worthy of entrusting his daughter for life. After they met my mother-in-law once, they felt that there was a considerable misunderstanding in the concept of a woman who had always lived in the countryside. She seemed to have crossed over at the beginning of the last century, with old-fashioned ideas. Even peers like my parents are difficult to communicate, thinking that I may suffer after I get married.

I didn't understand this at that time, and I thought that we would not live with our mother-in-law, even if there were differences in ideas, but usually I could move more to the elderly, so that there would not be much conflict. It was only after I came in that I found out. What I think is a little too naive. She thinks that I am a member of her family when I am married, so I should take it all for granted, and all the big and small feelings in the family are pushed on me. Whenever there is something wrong with the seven aunts and eight aunts in the countryside, she will come to me and come to live in my house in the city. It has caused me a lot of trouble, and she still thinks that this is what I, as her eldest daughter-in-law, should do. And she loves her brother-in-law so much that she feeds him so much that he is too old and too young to do any serious work, fooling around outside every day and asking her mother-in-law for it if she has no money. My husband and I are very helpless and can't talk about it.

Because he is really useless, people do not want to stay in the countryside, urban girls do not like him, rural girls do not dare to marry him, so drag it around until the age of 28. My mother-in-law was extremely anxious, but there was nothing she could do about this kind of thing, and no one else could help. Finally, now someone is willing to marry his brother-in-law, and my mother-in-law is very happy and is trying to find a way to prepare for his wedding. But over the years, my brother-in-law didn't have any savings, and my mother-in-law's savings were almost used by him, so she began to think about my husband and me. We bought this new house in a few years after we got married. But as soon as she opened her mouth, she said to me, "anyway, your brother-in-law is married. I'll give you two ways to go." Either you lend money to my son to buy a house, or give him your new house. "

I didn't bother to say anything when I saw her confused before, but now she even said it, and I don't want to indulge her any more. At that time, he said to her, "Mother-in-law, my brother-in-law is your son, not mine." As brothers and sisters-in-law, we have no obligation to raise him. Anyway, we don't have the ability to take care of the house, and we don't want to take care of it. If you think it's our responsibility, you can sue us in court. If they decide that we have to pay this sum of money, I won't run away from smashing pots and selling iron. " She left angrily, scolding me for being heartless. People say, does she have no conscience to us, or do we have no conscience to her?