It would be nice if my parents raised me and your house didn't have my name and asked you for a sky-high bride price.

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My parents raised me so much, and your house doesn't have my name. It would be nice if I didn't ask you for a sky-high bride price.

Now my boyfriend and I have reached the stage of talking about marriage, but there are differences because of some specific issues, the two sides can not reach an agreement, and we are in a state of stalemate. He thinks he's right, and I don't think I've done anything wrong. You might as well come and see who is wrong and doesn't know how to understand each other.

Yes, I have always admitted that my family is poor. My parents are just ordinary workers, and my mother is still weak and sickly, and she needs to take medicine for a long time. Below, there is a younger brother who is studying in college, and the family burden is also very heavy. I have no way to choose my native family in the first place. However, I am quite proud of myself. With my own part-time college, the company I joined later is also quite good, and my salary is high and stable. In addition, I am beautiful and tall, and I am no better off than my old man except that my family is not well off.

In fact, according to the general standard of choosing a mate for a normal white-collar woman, my boyfriend's family is also average, and he is a civil servant in an ordinary public institution. To put it bluntly, his salary and benefits are not as high as mine. But his mother just thinks that my mother has no money and burden, and there is only dissatisfaction and dislike for me. I said to my boyfriend at that time, "your mother doesn't seem to like me. Do you have the confidence to convince her?" I don't want to face your mother's cold shoulder all the time after I get married. " He said no problem. His mother is cold-hearted and warm-hearted, and it will become easier to deal with when she is familiar with. I was skeptical at that time, and his mother naturally did so to her son, but she only seemed to look down on me forever.

Later, maybe it was because my son was determined to choose me, my mother-in-law finally agreed to accept me, and we were all very happy at that time. When talking about marriage, his mother bought me a new house and said that she would not give me betrothal money. I was dissatisfied with my heart. I felt that his mother had taken a very clever step. The house was bought before marriage and belonged to my husband's premarital property. Because the house was not written in my name, it did not belong to my name. However, she only paid a down payment. I had to pay the mortgage together after marriage, so I made it clear to him, "my parents raised me so much, and your house doesn't have my name. It would be nice if I didn't ask you for a sky-high bride price." So I'm not going to bring an escort to marry me. Anyway, the situation in our family is not very permissible. "

As a result, my boyfriend was very dissatisfied when he learned that. He thought that he had solved the biggest problem by preparing the house, but I thought it was because I suffered losses and could not give in any more, but the problem was that my boyfriend didn't think so. He said that I just wanted to marry myself and enjoy the ready-made happiness. Let's talk about it, which one of us is reasonable and who is unreasonable, and what should we do next?