Husband betrothal money I didn't ask you to ask my parents to lend money to your brother to pay his debts?

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Honey, I didn't ask for the bride price. You want me to borrow money from my parents to pay your brother's debts. Where's your face?

Can the word "no money" take the place of all the responsibilities and obligations that should be borne? In the past, I could really understand their so-called difficulties, but later I found that it seemed to have become an excuse for my husband and mother-in-law to pay no attention to me. It was not until now that I realized that their so-called lack of money means that they are unwilling to spend a penny for me, and in addition, it has become an excuse to take unlimited money from me.

When we got married, my mother-in-law kept crying to me that she could not give the bride price, and it was not very sincere to look at that look. at that time, she turned her head and looked at her husband, but he just kept silent and didn't say a word. Although there was dissatisfaction in my heart, I thought of my feelings for so many years. Later, I tried to discuss with my husband that although their family could not come up with a bride price commensurate with our local marriage customs, they could more or less prepare it, so that I could make a job in front of my parents and would not lose too much face in front of my relatives and friends, but he said that we were living on our own and had nothing to do with the eyes of others.

Seeing that I was really unhappy, he said later that he would persuade his mother to be more considerate at the wedding, so as to earn me some face. At that time, when I heard it, I felt that there was no way to do it. As long as there was a little bit of merit, I felt more or less comforted and would not feel too embarrassed. Because my family has always disapproved of me marrying into his family, thinking that his family's financial situation is not good enough, and my mother-in-law is well-known for being shrewd. Such a family is really not like an ideal family to marry a daughter, but I just don't listen.

Unexpectedly, my husband reneged on his promise. On the day of the wedding ceremony, my mother-in-law "kept everything simple," from the layout of the scene to the shabby drinks and banquets everywhere. She didn't put much money into it. I feel very humiliated. I feel embarrassed and full of discontent when I look at my relatives' faces of discontent and worry. That's fine, but what I didn't expect even more was that not long after the marriage, my husband said that his brother had made trouble and owed a sum of money, and he wanted me to go back to my parents for help. I felt that his family did not pay any attention to me, but just wanted to take advantage of me, which went too far each time. At that time, they couldn't stand it any longer and quarreled with him. However, he said that I was not sensible. I was a member of their family after the door, and everything should be in the interests of my mother-in-law. After hearing this, I was very angry and sneered and asked him, "husband, I didn't ask you for any money for the bride price, and you asked me to borrow money from my parents to pay your brother's debts. as a big man, where's your face?"

He still has a cold war with me because of this remark and my refusal to go home to borrow money from my parents, and my mother-in-law has been talking cold words to me all day long. Everyone commented that what did I do wrong to be treated like this? was it because I understood my husband's situation so much before marriage that they didn't take me seriously at all?