Eight cartoons of Chinese parents in the face: you are just like your child.

Author (Li Yue)

Cartoon (Wang Yuan)

Source: Li Yue (ID:bymooneye)

Eight cartoons that hit Chinese parents in the face

Your child is just like you.

01

If I didn't do it well, I pushed the child desperately.

Your fitness equipment has been thrown in the corner for almost a decade, and the cobwebs have been updated for generations.

You think it's normal. But your son doesn't practice the piano, you can't stand it. You think he's too much.

Is it reasonable?

To be a parent, teaching by example is always more important than words.

Children are not stupid and can tell the true from the false in the dark. So they are more likely to imitate the behavior of their parents than to listen to what they say.

You are lazy and impetuous, and you want your child to be diligent and self-disciplined. How is that possible?

Be yourself before you ask your child.

02

It's not cute at all, and you complain that the kids don't love you.

Your house has become a pigsty, of course he doesn't want to go back.

If you don't see him once a month, of course he's not close to you. You yell at him when you are in a bad mood, of course he hates you.

Really, there must be a reason for your child's dislike, alienation, and uncooperation towards you.

Their thinking is very simple, they will instinctively do what they like and get close to the people they like.

Therefore, when your child is always not close to you, always envy other people's parents' home, always disobey, do not cooperate and do not accept your instructions.

Please reflect on yourself.

Don't always come up and judge the child, "Why are you so special?" 99% of the time, it's not that the child is cold and ungrateful, but that there is something wrong with your upbringing.

Not bad, kid. It's up to you.

03

I'm right everywhere, but it's all my child's fault.

Scold the child as soon as something goes wrong.

Never think about whether their own arrangements are unreasonable, their expectations are unreasonable.

Even if you realize that you are wrong, you must make excuses. Because you are an adult and bully a child, you can't talk about you.

Such childish, vain and unreasonable parents are bound to be despised by their children from the bottom of their hearts.

Don't feel wronged when he looks at you.

04

Let the children take the blame for the unhappy marriage

Saying that you love your children does not provide them with a really good life.

You can't even do such a little thing as "fighting in front of a child".

The marriage is hopeless, and he is still dragging his feet on divorce.

Obviously because he is weak and incompetent to take this step, he has to insist that he is "in order to give the child a complete home" and endure humiliation.

In fact, what is the use of this kind of chicken and dog jumping into a bitter and bitter home?

Children don't want it.

It's really good for the children. You can either run the family well, take care of the relationship between husband and wife, and don't make the children frightened by the cold war and hot war every day. Or simply divorce, everyone is clean.

If you don't dare to leave, admit generously, don't pull the child to carry the pot. Otherwise, the last sentence, "it's not for you", is enough for the child.

The child is he, when he was a child, he was in a mess, and when he grew up, he had to bear a whole body of sin. Who did he provoke?

05

Love to raise giant babies, never tired of it

Generally speaking, Western parents will think that their children will be adults after the age of 18.

But Chinese parents always feel that their children will not grow up. So everything needs to be taken care of, and the size requirements should be met. For a person in his thirties and forties, if you sneeze, you should go and find a coat for him immediately.

How can a man be independent when he is so cared for?

So giant babies are everywhere.

It is hard to imagine that a man who is decades old and still leaves his mother in charge of everything can play any role in society, work and family.

Chinese parents just can't bear to be separated from their children.

But the child must leave you and live on his own.

If you don't distinguish, you will be deformed. Giant babies are ugly.

Insisting on what age children should do is a compulsory course that most Chinese parents lack.

06

Always think that "that kind of thing" can be understood by the child himself.

Some children are born from trees. Some were pulled out of the sewers. The better ones are exchanged for gold bracelets.

Chinese children receive very little sex education.

Adults are so secretive about all reproductive-related organs and behavior that some children are sexually assaulted without knowing what happened.

What's even weirder is that when the school tries to teach sex seriously, there are always parents complaining that it's too explicit and terrible.

It is true that the benevolent see benevolence, and the adulterous see adultery.

If you do not teach what you should teach, others will not let you teach you well, and he must understand that knowledge, so he can only master it through crooked ways or try the law. Isn't that even worse?

As a matter of fact, it doesn't matter. The child asks, you just say it simply and honestly. A child will not be so serious. If you tell him the name of his genitals, he will feel as normal as his arms and feet.

If the child is a little older, you will basically solve the problem if you buy a book on adolescent education and keep it at home.

It's really not that complicated. We adults think too much.

07

Force children to be saints

You husband and wife do not fight for peace and friendship because you are prepared to buy two copies of the newspaper.

If there's only one copy, you two will have to grab it, right?

Then why ask children to guard a toy and not fight each other modestly?

Many parents think of their children as saints. Force them to love each other like themselves.

What? you're a sister. You have to give way to your brother.

What must be polite to elders?

What good things should be shared.

When he did it, he scratched his heart and scratched the liver, saying that the child was light.

In fact, children are selfish, competitive and even barbaric in nature, and their quality is absolutely no higher than that of adults.

You can ask them to be good people. But if they don't, you know, that's normal.

08

If he is not upright, he still expects the child not to be crooked.

Many parents want to teach their children well, and they always have a high-sounding mouth, but the contrast in action is too big.

The mouth teaches the child to be honest, brave and kind, but when it comes to a small bargain of three or five yuan, it immediately shows its original shape and cannot stand the test at all.

But I don't know it. I thought I was tall, wise and upright in the child's heart, and I wondered why the child was not like you.

Do not realize that the child is like you.

It's no use pretending to be like you. Children will learn what you really are.

The character of parents will be passed down like germs. In the end, your child's values and behavior patterns are guaranteed to be the essence of your bones.

A child is born with a blank piece of paper, he blossoms when you draw flowers, and he bears melons when you plant melons.

Your behavior is the pen that outlines his life.

It doesn't count. What really affects your child is who you really are.

So, if you think your child is not ideal, take a look at yourself first.

What you look like is the future of the child.

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* author: Li Yue, a popular columnist, neo-feminist, solid writing craftsman. Interpret emotion, see through human nature, and accompany thousands of women to grow up with reason and wisdom. The new book "Psychology of Love and Marriage: it is better to Love you than to Love you" is a hit. Official account of Wechat: Li Yue.

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